I-Sadism iyiqeqesha kanjani i-Masochism?【Ikilasi le-SM】

I-SM iyindlela ekhethekile empilweni yocansi futhi inezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokudlala.I-Sadism ne-Masochism imele izimfanelo ezihlukene zazo zombili izinhlangothi.Ngakho-ke kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwezindlela zeSadism kanye neMasochism empilweni yocansi.Ngakho-ke kuma-novices Sadism, ungaqala kanjani ukuqeqesha iMasochism?Manje ake sikufundise indlela yokuqeqesha iMasochism.

Umsebenzi wehlazo owenziwa yiSadism awugxili emishini, kodwa ehlazweni.Umsebenzi wehlazo ukuhlasela ihlazo langaphakathi ngezinga elikhulu, futhi kubaqalayo abangenalo ulwazi kule ndawo, umphumela ubaluleke kakhulu.

Ezimeni ezithile zomsebenzi, ungasebenzisa amagama anenhlamba nahlambalazayo olimini, kodwa kufanele unake ukufaneleka kolimi.Inhlamba ayisho ukuqalekisa.Ungasebenzisa amagama ayihlazo aqondiswe ezithweni zocansi.Mayelana nokunyakaza, i-Masochism ingenziwa ukuthi yenze ezinye izimo ezingakaze zenziwe ngaphambili.Isibonelo, ungaveza izitho zakho zangasese futhi uzibonise ngokuphelele.Noma yenza ukuma kwe-K9, futhi ungabopha i-Masochism ekumeni okuhlukahlukene.Yiqiniso, indlela yakho kufanele ibe yinhle, ngaphandle kwalokho izobukeka iyinqaba.

Ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa, umzimba akudingeki ube nqunu ngokuphelele.Ukukhumula ngendlela nangekhono kuzovuselela iMasochism futhi kudale umuzwa ohlukile wehlazo.Isibonelo, sebenzisa isikele ukusika izingubo zangaphansi ezivulekile.Yiqiniso, udinga ukuletha ipheya eyengeziwe.

Afake ingubo yangaphansi engagqokile emlonyeni kaMasochism.Uma unebhola lomlomo, ungakwazi ukweqa lesi sinyathelo.Kule nqubo, iMasochism kufanele ilalele imiyalo nezimfuneko zeSadism.Ungakwenqaba lokho okungamukeleki ngempela, kodwa akuzona zonke izinto okufanele zinqatshwe.Enqubweni yokunikeza imiyalo, iSadism kufanele ihloniphe iMasochism futhi ingenzi ngokweqile.

Enqubweni yeMasochism ekhipha imiyalo, uma iMasochism yenza iphutha, iSadism inganikeza isijeziso esithile, njengokuthi ingakanani i-SP engajeziswa ngokwenza iphutha.Uma kujeziswa, makubale uMasochism.

Ngenxa yokuthi umdlalo wehlazo uqondise kakhulu i-psychology, awukwazi ukudlalwa kaningi, ngaphandle kwalokho uma i-Masochism isishintshiwe, izonciphisa ubumnandi.Kungcono ukuyidlala kanye ngenyanga noma ngaphezulu, futhi ngemva kwesijeziso sehlazo, kufanele kwenziwe imizamo yokubuyela esimweni esijwayelekile.Hlala ebudlelwaneni futhi ugcine ucansi luyimfihlakalo.

Uma ulawula ngokuqaphela isifiso sobulili nokuziphatha kobulili kweMasochism, isijeziso esiyihlazo esilandelayo sizoba esingalibaleki!

KuMasochism othanda ukuthotshiswa, ungathi “Beka isikhwama sami okhalweni lwakho, sithathe, uguqe ukhase, uphakamise isinqe sakho phezulu”;kuMasochism othanda isiyalo, ungathi “Beka isikhwama sami phezu kwekhanda lakho, uguqe futhi ukhase, gcina izandla zakho ziphakanyiswe phezulu ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ungazinyakazi.”

Imininingwane esobala ijabulisa kakhulu iMasochism kunemiyalo elula.Khona-ke kufanele ufunde ukulawula umoya.Umkhathi ubaluleke kakhulu ohlelweni lokuqeqesha, kodwa amaSadism amaningi avame ukukushaya indiva leli phuzu.Kungani amahhotela othando edume kakhulu kunamahhotela avamile?Ngoba nje umkhathi ulungile.

Kunezici ezintathu eziyinhloko zokudala umoya: izingubo, imvelo kanye nesigqi.

Akudingeki ukusho ngezingubo, wonke umuntu unesitayela sakhe asithandayo.Ukugqokwa okusemthethweni okuhlobene nokuzithiba, izingubo zepulasitiki, izingubo zekati, njll. kungavumela izinhlangothi zombili ukuthi zithole ukukhuthazwa futhi zingene ngokushesha kuhulumeni.

Mayelana nemvelo, abanye abantu bathanda isitayela sokuzincisha injabulo, abanye abantu bathanda isitayela esimnyama, kanti abanye abantu bathanda indawo efudumele nethokomele.Kuyahlukahluka kumuntu nomuntu, kodwa okungenani akufanele kube indawo eyisicefe.

Into yokugcina nebaluleke kakhulu ukulawula isigqi.I-Sadism kufanele yazi ukuthi kufanele yenzeni nokuthi isigqi kufanele sisheshe noma sihambe kancane ngokuqonda iMasochism.

Konke ukuqeqeshwa kusekelwe ekwethembaneni phakathi kwezinhlangothi zombili.Uma iSadism ingathembi iMasochism, ngeke ikwazi ukukhipha imiyalo ngokukhululeka.Uma iMasochism ingathembi iSadism, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyala futhi ilawula kanjani, ngeke ithole injabulo, ngoba ayikwazi ukulalela ngokusuka ekujuleni kwenhliziyo futhi izinikele ngokuphelele.Ukwethembana kuyisisekelo nesihluthulelo sokunquma ukuthi iSadism neMasochism zingahlala ndawonye isikhathi eside.